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Developing your Own Unique Style

July 5, 2010

The first step in transforming your image is to develop your own unique style.

Style has nothing to do with flawless beauty, wealth, fame, or being a fashion victim.  Instead it is about adopting trends to your personal style, while making the very best of your own unique traits, personality and appearance.  At the same time, it is about showing regard for the situation you find yourself in and the expectations of those around you.

First find out who you really are.  What are your unique talents, strengths, dreams and life goals?  Learn to recognize and understand your own emotions. In this hectic world we live in, most of us don’t take the time to tune into our “inner worlds”.  The result is that we might lose touch with our own truths and passions.

One of the easiest, fun- ways to express yourself is by choosing colours, styles, make-up, accessories and hair-styles that reflect your uniqueness.

Clothing shouldn’t make the man or woman though; it really should be the other way around.  However, your outer image should be an extension of your inner self.  When you wear clothing that is really you, you are more inclined to act, speak and feel like yourself.  This in turn increases your self-confidence and you literally become more comfortable in your own skin.

I believe that we are all born with specific inclinations, and that we are conditioned from an early age by our parents, teachers and the latest fashion trends, to conform to wearing certain colours and styles that are not really ‘us’.  The result of this conditioning is that we lose our innate sense of style and colour and end up with an identity crisis in the style department.

Add to this the fact that people tend to judge a book by its cover and treat us according to the way we look.  This feedback from others is often what we base our self-image/concept on (the way we see ourselves) and is directly linked to our self-esteem (how we feel about ourselves). In effect, your clothing can act as a protective shield and a camouflage, not only of your body, but also of the deeper you. It is somewhat like a mask.  Some of us are quite content with hiding behind our masks, never revealing our true selves, in order to avoid pain or rejection. If you look like the real you, this helps you to act more naturally and confidently. Your first impression is likely to be positive, which leads to positive feedback from others, which in turn contributes to your feeling even more confident about your REAL/ AUTHENTIC SELF. If the feedback from others is negative, this might give you valuable insight into aspects of yourself and your body you might want to develop, that is, growth areas.

I would like to challenge you to break out of your ‘style mould’, observe how others treat you differently. Own your ‘truth’ and express it.  Redefine it if it no longer serves you.

We all have “hidden passions”, parts of our personalities which we haven’t allowed to be fully expressed.  These passions form part of our self-awareness and self-expression.  Once you discover what they are and start dressing accordingly, you should develop an even firmer sense of your own identify. The opposite is also true, often “loosening-up” or “altering” your image, acts as a kind of catalyst in the process of uncovering your REAL/AUTHENTIC SELF.


Suzaan was born in Cape Town and has been working as an Image and EQ Consultant in Cape Town and Johannesburg since 1998. She uses a combination of modalities, such as Psychology and Spirituality, to inspire, effect positive change, and bring about psychological adaptability and spiritual growth in her clients. Suzaan has an Honours Degree in Psychology (University of Port Elizabeth), but firmly supports a holistic healing approach targeting body, mind and spirit.

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