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November 2, 2011
Metta is the Buddhist meditation practice of loving kindness for ourselves and for all beings. It is also much more than that.  It is a frame of mind and a way of being who we really are, a way of living life fully.Metta is a Pali word, (Pali was the language that existed in India at the time of the Buddha), meaning gently, friendly and unconditional love and traditionally the Buddha prescribed the practice to relieve fear of those who walked through forests and slept in caves.

So how does this apply to us now?  In life when we are faced with difficult and challenging situations we react unconsciously from fear and the illusion and mistaken belief that we are separate individuals.  We then feel we need to defend and protect ourselves, that we need to push through life, and that we are limited.  And then we get lost in and identified with destructive negative emotions such as hatred, ill-will, anger, resentment, anxiety, self doubt and self pity.

When we choose Metta as an antidote it is important to start where we are:  to acknowledge our actual state of mind; it is important to respect and allow the way we are in the moment without suppressing or denying and then it is important to accept what is.  And from this place of acceptance, we then have a choice.

“OK, I’m feeling hurt and rejected, I allow and accept this feeling and I now choose to come to the practice of Metta generating a feeling of love for myself.”

So in this way Metta practice can take us from the sense of separation, the hurt and negative emotions towards a more skillful and peaceful way of being.

So this is how it transforms – Metta heals the heart, starts to purify the body of the emotional toxins and leads to purification of our inner reactions.

Metta is harmony of body, heart, intention and mind; it is harmony in families, in society and in the whole of the Universe. We practice Metta to help reconnect us with what we really are.

Metta starts with loving and accepting ourselves, which is not always easy when we judge and doubt ourselves.  So have the intention NOW to let go of the self judgments – this then makes it easier to work with self love and acceptance.


Wisdom of the Heart


“We need to learn to integrate the head and the heart.  The faculties of the intellect

are discrimination and concentration.  Those of the heart are love and compassion.

The heart is the passionate centre that fuels the journey to attain true knowledge.

There is no spiritual path without a heart.  Discovering the infinite space within the

heart is the goal of Yoga.”

“Less thinking, more loving”  St Theresa de Avila

“Love recognizes no barriers.  It jumps hurdles, leaps fences, penetrates walls to

arrive at its destination full of hope.”  Maya Angelou

“Being unwanted, unloved, uncared for, forgotten by everybody, I think that is a much greater

hunger, a much greater poverty than the person who has nothing to eat.”  Mother Teresa

“It is not the size of a man, but the size of his heart that matters.”

Evander Holyfield

“Love begins at home, and it is not how much we do, but how much love

we put in that action.”  Mother Teresa

“Love is a dynamic entity that gently places wings on your soul and allows it to soar.”

Fadege Jean



May I / you / all beings be happy.

May I / you / all beings be peaceful.

May I / you / all beings be safe and free from harm.

May I / you / all beings be healthy in body and mind.

May I / you / all beings live with ease.

May my / your / their life not be a struggle.

May I / you / all beings accept things as they are.

The Half Smile

“The most important thing is constancy.  If you pick a practice, say a mindfulness

practice, you have to do it often.  There’s a great little practice called the half smile:

you slightly lift the corners of your mouth and hold it for three breaths.  If you do it 6 or more

times a day, within 3 days it makes a surprising difference to the body and mind.  You can

do it during any time of waiting, when you are on hold on the phone, at the grocery store,

in the post office or bank, at the stop lights.”  Yvonne Hand, Zen teacher

The Buddha said:  “You can search throughout the entire Universe for

someone who is more deserving of your love and affection than you are yourself, and

that person is not to be found anywhere.  You yourself, as much as anybody in the entire

Universe, deserves your love and affection.”

By Wendy Young. Click here to read up about Wendy
Wendy can be contacted on 072 800 4982,  and Facebook Wendy Young Wise Living. She is based in Johannesburg. 
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